Helene Goldnadel


Ways by Helene Goldnadel To Help Your Child Get Better Grades

Parents always want to do what's best for their child, but a lot of times you just don't know what that BEST actually is. You want to teach your child to become independent, but don't want them feeling like they're all alone when they really do need a helping hand. Sometimes you don't even know how you could help them do better in school or get better grades and rather than letting them down, you decide to let the natural course of order just do it's thing.


It's tough being a parent, without a question, but that doesn't mean you can't be prepared for handling tough situations. As a parent, it's important to realize that you play an important role in your overall child's success. You wear many different hats and play many different roles in your child's life, but to help them do better in school and get better grades you'll have to play some of the following roles suggested by Helene Goldnadel a life coach.


Be A Role Model


Being a role model definitely isn't easy. Your actions and words are constantly being scrutinized. To make this role easier for yourself, you should know that it's alright not to be perfect. It actually helps you connect with your child even more when they see you making mistakes. However, the different between a good mistake and a bad mistake is the realization of the mistake and the correction you make.


For your child to always see you as being flawless actually puts a lot of pressure on them. They will want to live up to their parent's legacy. But, even you can't say you're a perfect parent, so it's best not to portray yourself as being so. Letting your child see your mistakes and how you correct your mistakes actually does 2 very important things.

  1. They see that it's alright to make a mistake as long as they own up to it and work to correct it.
  2. They will focus on HOW you corrected your mistake and how you've become a better person because of it.


Doing well in school is all about catching yourself making mistakes, learning from your mistakes, and using your mistakes as stepping stones to greater heights of success.


Another key element of being a role model for your child is showing them how, what they're learning in school, applies to your every day life. I know we all could remember a time, when we were still in school, which made us think "Just what in the world am I going to use this for!" Truth is, we use what we've learned in school, indirectly and directly every day. Math is used for example, in everything from shopping for food, clothing, and essentials, down to how early you'll need to leave your house in the morning in order to get to work on time. Show your child how you use what they're learning and you'll find that they'll become more interested in their school work.


Be A Tutor


As a parent, you often feel like you need to be the disciplinary figure in your child's life. Even though that is true from the moral perspective, it doesn't always hold up to being beneficial when helping your child do better in school. Being a tutor or a mentor however, is a much better role to play when it comes to your child's school work.


Being a tutor or a mentor is all about giving your child a helping hand and actually even sometimes providing the motivation for them to keep doing well. You can help them practice, create fun memorization games, get really involved in what they're learning by actually even learning it yourself, or teaching them how you learned a particular topic. As a tutor or mentor, you should follow along their progress rather than leading their progress, but always steer them back to the right path when you see they're taking the wrong off-ramp or are stalled on the road. Follow up on your child's progress, but let them know it's OK not to be directly on course all of the time. Give them a little leeway, but always track their course and when they're getting too much off track, rally them and get them back on the right road.


Be A Resource


You are your child's ultimate resource whichever way you look at it. Some children tend to be very independent and that's not necessarily a bad thing, but you should cultivate the type of relationship with your child in a way that allows them to be fully comfortable coming to you for help, advice, or even just a talk. Doing things with your children is sometimes all you need to do in order to achieve this. I know most parents give their children chores to do around the house in order to give them a sense of responsibility. Chores however are perfect moments when you could have the time to talk to your child. Do a chore with them every so often, talk to them, find out what's on their mind, but don't push too hard. No one likes being questioned or interrogated. Instead, to have them open up to you, you might try telling them what's on your mind or asking for their opinion. You'd be surprised at just how smart your child really is. A young persons mind is very resourceful.


Opening up channels of communicate will give your child the sense that they could go to you, as their resource, when they need it. One of the worst feelings is the sense that you have to carry everything on your own shoulders. It's important that your child knows they're not alone. It's not easy to balance this role, but you should definitely work on it and you'll make progress in no time at all. The best way I could describe this is as follow - Hold up your child's world, but without them seeing you do so.


Know Your Child's Teacher


This is definitely important, there's more weight being put on this idea than the others mentioned above. Your child's teacher is extremely important to your child's learning experience. However, knowing your child's teacher isn't the answer to all of your questions or concerns. If you were to only focus on this idea and not the others, the learning mechanism won't do too well. But if you were to make sure the other elements are working properly, then knowing your child's teacher is the icing on the cake.


Your child knows their teacher in a certain light, but you could get to know their teacher in a totally more complete light. Talking to your child's teacher and finding out what they think your child has trouble with and what they think your child is really good at will allow you to improvise your game plan to help your child excel even further. Knowing your child's teacher will also help you understand what they want your child to focus on in school and what they think are the most important topics.


You want to be clear to your child's teacher that you'd like to work WITH THEM in order to help your child excel. Often time's teachers get the sense that the parent is always accusing them or blaming them for their child's pitfalls. Rather than making them feel incompetent, try making them a team player and letting them know that you're there to do whatever you have to in order for your child to do better in school.


It's certainly not easy playing all these different roles, but in time and with perseverance you'll notice that these roles are actually a lot of fun to play. You'll see the fruits of your actions ripen right before your eyes and you'll have the ultimate sense of achievement when your child starts seeing their grades and learning experience improve.

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